Both needs are real, and neither will yield. The native pursues warmly, secures the attachment, and within weeks begins testing it: an argument started over nothing, a flirtation conducted in view, a plan announced that excludes the other. When the partner finally reacts, the reaction is cited as proof that they were possessive all along. What looks like bad luck in love is usually a sequence the native is running, and it takes an unusual degree of honesty to see it from the inside.
Money and possessions show the same discontinuity. Income appears in bursts and is spent before it settles. Furniture, wardrobes and whole households are disposed of in an afternoon, often with real relief, and something almost identical is bought back within two years. Work with fixed hours produces a physical impatience by the second year. The native is drawn to people who are already unavailable, and the unavailability is a large part of the attraction, though this is never the reason given at the time.
The square is productive because it will not let the native settle for a comfortable falsehood. Endings here are genuine endings, and the native learns to survive them without much bitterness, which is not a small thing. Development comes when the demand for freedom is stated in advance rather than enacted by sabotage. Partners can accommodate an unusual arrangement; they cannot accommodate ambush. Natives who negotiate their terms out loud find the restlessness drops away almost entirely, because it was never really about the other person.
What It Gives
- ◆endings survived without bitterness
- ◆honesty about unconventional needs
- ◆quick to leave what is wrong
- ◆attraction to the original and unformed
What It Costs
- ◆attachment tested until it breaks
- ◆unavailable people repeatedly chosen
- ◆income and possessions in constant churn
This is one line of a whole chart. The rest of it — every placement, house and aspect at once — is a birth date away.
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