What the native wants does not exist, and the square will not let them settle for what does. The consequence is a run of attachments with something structurally wrong in them: someone married, someone abroad, someone dead, someone drinking. The obstacle is not incidental; it is the part that keeps the picture intact. A partner who becomes fully available tends to become uninteresting within a season, and the native reports this as a change in the partner rather than a change in the light.
Money and property carry the same fog. Contracts are signed unread, a friend's business is invested in on trust, and small persistent leakages go unexamined for years because looking at them is unpleasant. The native is defrauded more often than average, and occasionally does the defrauding without quite admitting it, through a promise made warmly and not kept. Alcohol and prescriptions deserve a plain mention here, since they are the standard anaesthetic when the gap between wanting and having gets loud.
The friction is worth what it costs, because it produces artists and carers of the first rank rather than merely wistful people. The development is unglamorous: verify, count, and stay in the room after the enchantment has worn off. Natives who survive two or three disillusionments without going cynical arrive somewhere genuinely rare, able to love an actual person while still seeing what they might become. The square does not stop generating the ideal. It stops requiring the ideal to be someone else's job.
What It Gives
- ◆capacity for devotion without return
- ◆longing turned into finished art
- ◆sees potential others overlook
- ◆forgiveness after real injury
What It Costs
- ◆unavailable partners repeatedly chosen
- ◆agreements signed without reading
- ◆anaesthetics used to close the gap
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