Affection arrives as feeding, tending, and remembering. This is the person who knows how everyone takes their tea, who keeps the photographs, who notices that a friend has gone quiet and asks about it a week later. The impulse is protective, and it comes without being requested, which is its charm and occasionally its problem. Care that has not been asked for can settle over a household like a low ceiling, and be defended as devotion when it is questioned.
Courtship is slow and heavily defended. Interest is signalled sideways, by small services rather than declarations, and a direct approach is met with retreat, sometimes for months. What lies behind the caution is a long memory for rejection: nothing is forgotten, and every past hurt is available to be consulted. Once a person is admitted, however, they are family, and the loyalty is close to unconditional. Ending such an attachment is a grief that lasts years, whatever the circumstances.
Money goes into the house: the kitchen, the spare room, the food, and the people who eat it. The taste is for the worn and the inherited over the new, and objects with history in them are kept long past their usefulness. Being wanted is deeply enjoyed and rarely acknowledged out loud. The cost of the placement is the moodiness of its giving; withdrawn affection is used, half-consciously, as a message, and the other party is left to work out what they have done from a silence that will not explain itself.
What It Gives
- ◆devoted protective care
- ◆loyalty over many years
- ◆warmth in domestic life
- ◆sensitivity to what is unsaid
What It Costs
- ◆withdrawing instead of speaking
- ◆clinging to old hurts
- ◆care that becomes control
This is one line of a whole chart. The rest of it — every placement, house and aspect at once — is a birth date away.
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