The reflex under emotional pressure is to rise above it. Such a person becomes noticeably calm and reasonable at precisely the moment others would weep, and the calm is genuine rather than performed; observing the feeling from a slight altitude is how this nature manages it. Freedom is the requirement. Being needed unpredictably, or held too close, produces a claustrophobia that will be resolved by absence if it is not resolved by conversation. Solitude here is restorative, not punishing.
Affection runs through the group and the shared cause. Friendship carries the weight that family carries elsewhere, and chosen company is often more truly kin than blood. This nature offers loyalty, tolerance and remarkably good counsel; nothing confessed will be judged, and eccentricity is met with interest rather than alarm. What it does not offer readily is the warm inarticulate presence that a distressed person sometimes wants instead of insight. Tears are answered with a well-reasoned observation, kindly meant.
The costs are coolness and self-ignorance. Feelings are theorised rather than inhabited, and a person can go years describing their emotional life with great accuracy while feeling very little of it. Unpredictable withdrawals leave partners uncertain of their standing. From outside this looks like admirable independence. From inside it is frequently bafflement at why closeness, which is plainly wanted, becomes unbearable at close range. The remedy is unfashionable: stay put, say the need in three plain words, resist the analysis.
What It Gives
- ◆steady in emotional storms
- ◆non-judgemental with confidences
- ◆genuine loyalty to friends
- ◆comfortable in solitude
What It Costs
- ◆detachment from own feeling
- ◆abrupt withdrawal from intimacy
- ◆theory in place of comfort
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