One end is carried by the native and the other is handed to somebody else, and it is almost always Saturn that gets handed over. Partners are older, poorer in warmth, or occupied elsewhere. Affection is rationed by them, which spares the native the trouble of noticing that they arranged the rationing themselves. Where the arrangement reverses, the native becomes the judge, the one who checks the accounts and points out the extravagance, and is genuinely surprised to be told they are cold.
The visible battlegrounds are money, time and approval. Someone in the household earns and someone spends, and the imbalance is discussed in a tone that never quite becomes an argument. Anniversaries and gifts go wrong in a specific way: the native gives something durable and useful where something frivolous was wanted, or receives a duty gift and reads its dutifulness accurately. Contracts, dowries, settlements and the dividing of property loom unusually large in the biography attached to this aspect.
Holding both ends means accepting that the demand for proof and the wish to be wanted belong to the same person. Natives who manage it stop auditioning and stop auditing, and are unusually good at long partnerships that have survived a real reverse, since neither the sentiment nor the arithmetic frightens them. Those who do not manage it change partners and find the terms reprinted word for word. The aspect is patient. It will keep supplying the other person until the other person is recognised.
What It Gives
- ◆endures long partnerships through hard years
- ◆clear about contracts and settlements
- ◆attracts serious rather than decorative company
- ◆learns proportion from being refused
What It Costs
- ◆coldness located in the partner
- ◆approval sought from those withholding it
- ◆gifts that miss on purpose
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