What is wanted for security and what is wanted for delight sit facing each other, and the native rarely holds both at once. Early on the split is externalised. One party is cast as the safe one, the family, the old friend, the person who is always there, and another as the lovely one, the affair, the extravagance, the company that makes life feel like life. Loyalty runs to the first and appetite to the second, and the native experiences this as bad luck rather than as their own arrangement.
The signs are recognisable. A partner is chosen for comfort and then resented for dullness, or chosen for beauty and then blamed for offering no shelter. Relatives and lovers are kept in separate rooms and introduced late. Money divides the same way, between what is prudent and what is delicious, with very little in the middle. Such natives often report that they cannot have both, which is a description of the opposition rather than of the world.
Resolution is not a choice between the two. It comes when the native stops recruiting other people to carry half of themselves and admits the appetite and the need to the same room, usually around the second Saturn return, often after one loss that made the division untenable. Those who manage it are exceptionally good at other people's marriages, having examined the mechanism at length in their own. Those who do not simply keep changing the cast and staging the same production.
What It Gives
- ◆unusual insight into other marriages
- ◆strong loyalty and strong appetite together
- ◆quick to see what is missing
- ◆capable of great devotion
What It Costs
- ◆safety and delight kept apart
- ◆partners blamed for the split
- ◆the same conflict recast repeatedly
This is one line of a whole chart. The rest of it — every placement, house and aspect at once — is a birth date away.
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