Oppositions arrive from outside. The native with this one reports, quite sincerely, that they are the practical member of every household they have ever lived in, and that they have a remarkable run of luck with charming, unreliable people. The vagueness is real, but for many years it belongs to somebody else: the parent who was present in body only, the partner who drinks, the friend whose stories do not survive checking. Being the anchor is not a pose. It is simply the half of the axis the native picked up first.
The pattern is legible in the pattern of the rescues. Each attachment begins with a strong sense of being needed and ends with the native exhausted and quietly bitter, having supplied structure to someone who had none. Meanwhile their own longing for release goes unadmitted and comes out sideways in one long holiday, an affair, or a sudden decision to abandon the whole arrangement. What looked like the other person's failing turns out to have been the native's disowned appetite, handed over for safekeeping and then complained about.
The resolution is not to choose the anchor and cast off the fog, nor to give in to it. It is to take the imaginative half back into the native's own life on purpose, in a form that does no damage, so that it stops recruiting stand ins. People who make this turn stop attracting dependants and start attracting equals, which is disorienting at first and then a great relief. Handled well, the opposition gives an unusual double competence: the ability to run a household and the ability to enter a dream, on the same day.
What It Gives
- ◆reliability others build on
- ◆clear sight of another's confusion
- ◆loyalty through long difficulty
- ◆double command of order and imagination
What It Costs
- ◆rescuing the same person repeatedly
- ◆own longings disowned and projected
- ◆bitterness after unasked for sacrifice
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